COUPLES & FOOD ALLERGIES
A romantic night out when your spouse suffers from food
allergies is not only challenging but could be a very stressful
situation for most couples. Wanting to share a meal is not
simple at all. Going out to enjoy a meal prepared by someone
else and being vigilantly about avoiding the offending foods
doesn't take away the fear and anxiety food allergic
individuals feel every time they walk into a restaurant.
When someone with food allergies begins dating it's hard, and
unfortunately it doesn't go away even after getting married.
Eating is supposed to be an easy way to spend time together,
to share an afternoon or evening. When you are married to
someone with food allergies, no matter how much you try, you
will often feel like you are stuck with someone whose company
is unpleasant until the check comes. No danger foods for you,
no kissing if you ingested a danger food. Airborne particles of
food will also keep you on your toes.
If You Love me why did you almost killed me with your
Loves you? Yeah, that same person could be the one that has
or could accidentally 'poison' you more than once. The
challenges this places on a relationship can't be ignored. The
non-allergic partner has to deal with feelings of guilt even if it
wasn't their fault. The allergic partner, of course, is dealing
not only with the discomfort of an allergic reaction but with
the fear of dying.
Food, water and shelter are basics of life that spouses trust
they will provide for each other. But one accidentally induced
food allergic reaction sends that trust out the door. It's a
challenge. But not an insurmountable one. Since eating is
just too stressful look for food free dates.
Food Free Dates
Although many couples keep their relationship alive by going
out to eat, not having this luxury is not the end of the world.
Here are some ideas:
Hiking: gorgeous mountain vistas, lovely hidden breathtaking
glimpse of nature.
Pool Halls and Bowling Alleys: Although many of these
establishments also sell food, you can call ahead and decide
how safe it sounds for your own unique allergen. If you focus
on the game, you don't have to worry about looking awkward
when you aren't eating.
Classes: take a new class and learn a foreign language, or
how to dance. These options may be a little more expensive
than going out to eat, but they're still a good way to connect.
And a lot more practical than a single meal.
More than Art Museums: art, sex toys history, aviation,
toys. Discuss how much you like or disliked them, just like you
would after a restaurant visit.
Walking: Pretend you're a tourist, look for local walking tours.
You won't believe how many new things you can discover
about the town you live in.